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How to use your trauma to heal yourself

A picture of  man holding up his arms in victory, standing in a cornfield with the sun beating down on him with the words "Your recovery can actually begin at that darkest moment" Brad Mace then the website www.positivelycalm.com

For eighteen years now I have been working with clients, mostly on a one to one basis, and the majority of this work has been trauma work using  hypno-analysis. Many of the clients that enter my consulting room have a pre conceived idea about hypnotherapy or hypnosis.  I tend to call this the ‘magic wand’ syndrome. That’s to say that they think that I can hypnotise them and take away their worries or fears and everything will just go away in one session like ‘waving a magic wand.’ It would be truly wonderful if therapy was that simple. It tends to be stage hypnosis that gives people this misconception. The clue is in the title ‘stage’ I am afraid. Hypnotherapy is a completely different ball game. I use clinical hypnosis alongside Psychotherapy. So let me explain further, when we suffer trauma the emotions related to that trauma can get repressed and this repression happens within the subconscious part of our mind.

Hypno-analysis is a form of therapy that can allow us to access moments that have caused trauma and this helps release the trauma from our subconscious. There are also other therapeutic tools which I use, apart from hypno-analysis, which can help to do this. I believe in having different tools to support what works for each personality type, and am aware that what may not work for one just might work for anothe.  What I have found is that what all the most successful tools have in common is that they involve revisiting and working with the event that has caused the trauma in the first place!
So, when that client walks into my consulting room expecting me to wave that magic wand the last thing that they usually want to hear is that I am possibly going to take them back to face up to the trauma that caused their symptom. I say ‘possibly’ because this isn’t always the case. Suggestion therapy will work on some things, for example
quit smoking. I do know though, for most problems related to a neurosis, the cream of therapies is weeding out that root cause through analysis.
The fact that a client doesn’t want to face up to that trauma is the exact reason that they should even though this is quite understandable. Have you ever heard the phrase ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’? We don’t want to ‘go there’, of course we don’t , because it means reliving the moment. Most of our problems end up going back to something in childhood and that was a time when we couldn’t understand or rationalise how we were feeling hence repression. Revisiting that event and accessing the feeling is a way of reprocessing it and letting it go. Sometimes there needs to be some re-framing of that memory. Other therapeutic interventions such as EFT and EFTMR can also help with this and they are similar to hypnotherapy in that we are putting the clients mind into the theta state. This relaxed state makes us able to access the subconscious and it is also much easier for the client to talk about traumatic experiences and for me to work with them.

It’s not just a case of jumping into a memory and working with it straightaway. It would very often take much more than one session to be able to access traumatic memories, of which there would usually be more than one, and the right therapist would guide you very gently through the experience. Yes, emotion will be released but that release is a huge weight off the shoulders leading you towards freedom from your symptoms. I, myself was healed of my tourettes symptoms by revisiting an early traumatic moment that caused them. You can see my article about how this was achieved here.


These are great interventions to help with the relief of anxiety, depression, PTSD, phobias and so much more. So if you ever find yourself in front of a therapist who you were hoping was going to wave a magic wand but instead wants to help you confront and release those trauma then my advice would be FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY! Remember, always go with a professional accredited registered therapist to help you achieve that freedom from fear and anxiety and know you are working hand in hand with the clinical professional. To book a free 30 minute consultation contact me here.

How do we overcome negative suggestion?

A picture of Victor Meldrews head sticking out the ground.
How not be buried under negativity

How do we overcome negative suggestion? The term heterosuggestion means a suggestion from another person. All over the world the power of suggestion has played a huge part in everybody’s thoughts. Politics, religion and cultural customs all flourish through the power of heterosuggestion.

Suggestion can be used as a tool to discipline and control ourselves. However, it can also be used to take control and command over others who have not been taught to understand the laws of the mind. If it is used constructively then it can be wonderful and positive. BUT if it is used negatively it is one of the most destructive response patterns of the mind. The result of negative hetero suggestion can result in negative patterns of failure, misery, suffering and even sickness.

From the day we are born we are bombarded with negative suggestions without, most of the time, realising it. Our subconscious mind accepts them and so then they become of our being, part of our experience.

 Here are some examples of negative  heterosuggestion. Read each one and think about if you have ever accepted any of these?

  • You can’t.
  • Things are getting worse all the time.
  • You’ll never amount to anything.
  • You’re too old now.
  • You mustn’t.
  • There’s no point in trying too hard.
  • You’ll fail.
  • What’s the use? Nobody cares.
  • You haven’t got a chance.
  • It’s not what you now, but who you know.
  • You’re all wrong.
  • It’s no use.
  • You just can’t win.
  • You can’t trust anybody.
  • You will become ill if you do that.
  • Everybody is out for themselves.

I’m sure we are all familiar with some of these and, of course, there are many more. By accepting these negative suggestions we collaborate in making them a truth in our lives. Especially as a child you are helpless when faced with the suggestions of others, especially if these people are important to you or an authority figure. You do not know enough about the mind to counteract these suggestions.

However, as an adult, you are able to make choices. You can use positive and constructive autosuggestion which is a reconditioning therapy. This will help change impressions made on you in the past. The first step is to make you aware of the heterosuggestions that have made a negative influence on your life. Hypnotherapy is a quick way of uncovering negative subconscious programming, especially using hypno-analysis. After these negative suggestions have been ‘weeded’ out positive and constructive autosuggestion can be used to help release you from negative behaviour patterns.

You only have to read the newspaper and turn on the news everyday to hear stories that sow the seeds of fear, worry, anxiety and impending doom. If you take these in then they can cause you to lose the will for living! BUT once you understand that you don’t have to accept them then you have the power to counteract all these destructive ideas.

Look back and recall how parents, friends, relatives,teachers and even other colleagues contributed negative suggestions. Study these and you will discover that many of them were nothing more than control by instilling fear in you. Whether people realise it or not they can be trying to make you think, feel, and act as they want you to, in ways that are to their advantage even if they are destructive to you.

So, your subconscious mind does not argue with you. It will accept what your conscious mind ‘believes’. If you say “I can’t do it” then your subconscious mind will work to make it true. So accept a better thought “I can do it!”

You have the power to choose so choose health, wealth and happiness. You can choose to be friendly or you can choose to be unfriendly. If you choose to be cooperative, joyous, friendly, lovable, then the world will respond positively! Choose to believe that something good will happen and is already happening. Choose happiness and abundance.

Choose to reject negative statements from others and affirm the good statements. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOOSE HOW YOU REACT!

Be careful what you say. You have to account for every word.Never say ‘I will fail’ or ‘I can’t pay the mortgage’ as your subconscious cannot take a joke. It will bring everything to pass.

Use your mind to bless, heal and inspire all people everywhere with positive thoughts and actions. What you put out comes back tenfold!

Do not let others do your thinking for you. Choose your  own thoughts and make your own decisions. You are the captain of your subconscious mind and the master of your very own fate. You have the capacity to choose.Choose life! Choose love! Choose happiness! Choose abundance! Choose health!

Remember whatever your conscious mind assumes and believes to be true your subconscious mind will accept and bring to pass. For further information contact me here

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