Month: <span>January 2017</span>

Bringing EFT (tapping) into the mainstream and celebrities that use it

Hello everyone and welcome to this weeks blog. I hope that we are all having a positive week. I have chosen this week to talk a bit further about Emotional Freedom Technique and how more and more it is proving to be such a powerfully effective therapy and being brought into the mainstream with many celebrities using it. I know from my own research and success with clients what a fantastic job it is doing by helping to positively rewire the brain against negative thoughts. The great news is that experts are now calling on the NHS to start using this fantastic self help technique after research has proved its effectiveness in treating a number of conditions. Researchers at Staffordshire University have been leading research into the effectiveness of EFT in the UK. Professor Tony Stuart, who led a trial of the treatment in the Birmingham area said ‘EFT is a new and emerging therapy that can be used to treat a wide range of conditions. Patients gently tap with their fingertips on acupressure points, mainly on the head and hands, and relate this to the voicing of specific statements. A growing number of statements suggest that EFT is a growing and safe treatment and with the increase of demand for mental health services and a decrease of NHS resources we feel the use of EFT within the NHS should now be extended.’

The research studied 39 patients during the trial and say that most improved significantly as a result of the treatment.

The researchers say that one of the key benefits of EFT is that, once learn’t, it can be easily self- administered meaning that patients can use it on themselves for any issue whenever it is required.

A further study using Staffordshire university students has provided evidence that EFT could boost performance in pressurised conditions. One hundred students were approached to randomly to receive either an EFT session or a motivational lecture ahead of giving a marked presentation. Amazingly, although I am not surprised after the results that I have seen in my consulting room here at positivelycalm, the 50 students that received the EFT remained calmer and achieved higher results.

On average it has been determined that just over five sessions are required to treat clients which compares well with other therapies such as cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) where around 20 sessions would often be required depending on the severity of the condition.

I think that this research is so exciting and proves what I have seen time and time again with my own eyes in my consulting room using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) here in Essex. The research has been published in the journal of Psychological therapies in Primary Care.

It’s also interesting that a lot of celebrities are now also using EFT. See this video here to see Olympic athlete Bralon Taplin using the ground break technique just before an event.

Actress and Comedienne Whoopi Goldberg has also talked about EFT tapping over the last couple of years and how she has used it for many different aspects in her life. Here is a video of Whoopi on an American television show using Emotional Freedom Technique to help her overcome her fear of flying.

Singer Lilly Allen also talks about how she has used EFT to help her overcome her addiction to chocolate after other therapies failed. She had tried Hypnotherapy, aversion therapy, willpower, diets and even sniffing vanilla to curb the cravings without any success. After she heard that EFT research claimed an 80 per cent success rate for overcoming chocolate addiction she decided to give it a go. Even though she admits that at first she was sceptical she now claims that it has worked to help her overcome her cravings after just one session. See below:

I think it‘s fantastic that celebrities are now speaking about this ground breaking treatment and bringing EFT into the mainstream. Madonna is also said to be a big fan of EFT.

Michael Ball has also spoken out about how he uses EFT to overcome performance anxiety and informs us that he was actually taught the technique by the late Stephen Gately who used Emotional Freedom Technique for exactly the same reason. On this video here you can see Michael Ball speaking to BBC news about how EFT has helped him.

So, all in all, I think that this is a really exciting time for EFT and I love seeing all this proof of how successfully this therapy works after I have used this in my consulting room for years. As the cliché goes ‘the proof is in the pudding’ and it certainly is with EFT as I have seen time and time again the amazing evidence that EFT can really change peoples lives. For more information about Hypnotherapy or EFT in Essex please contact me here. Wishing you all a positively calm and inspirational week.

First Blog Of The New Year – Preventing Heated Arguments

Two people pulling on each end of a gold chain with a sign in the middle of the chain saing 'Why I'm Right'

Happy New Year everyone and welcome to my first blog of 2017. Sorry that it’s been a bit delayed but things have been busy here at positivelycalm. I hope we all had good Christmas and New Year celebrations. Did everyone got through it in one piece without too many arguments?;-) I say this because it can be a stressful time for some people and along with too much alcohol sometimes things get heated. We have all heard of the famous Christmas argument. Well with many people making new years resolutions concerning quitting bad habits and weight loss how about a resolution to keep calm and stop arguing? It doesn’t have to be the start of a new year to make a resolution; we can make change at any time. I always find arguing such a waste of energy. After all what is arguing? It is just difference of opinion and wouldn’t the world be a boring place if we all thought the same? Our opinions come from our different backgrounds and experiences which colour our thoughts and judgments in later life so, of course, we can’t all have the same ideas. And discussing things calmly is a fantastic way of learning from each other but when things get heated or aggressive then that is when it becomes an argument. And what is the best way to lose an argument? Exactly that! Getting aggressive really takes away all credibility.
So what is an argument? A dictionary definition of an argument is as follows:
1. Give reasons or cite evidence in support of an idea, action, or theory, typically with the aim of persuading others to share one’s view.
2. Exchange or express diverging or opposite views, typically in a heated or angry way.
So yes it is great to debate things but when people start getting upset or angry it can cause a bad atmosphere and bad feeling. How can we avoid this?
First of all listen! Just by showing the other person that you are taking into account what they are saying will make them feel better. It doesn’t mean that you have to agree to what they are saying.
Display open body language. Crossing your arms or turning away from a person is an aggressive gesture that is just going to aggravate the person that you are conversing with.
Try not to raise your voice. Keep it on an even level. There is a big difference between argumentative and assertive behaviour. It is much better to be assertive and get your point across without losing your temper.
If you feel yourself getting angry then talk about your feelings. It’s much better to discharge them by speaking before you get angry otherwise that leads to frustration. If you can both consciously take five minutes each at the beginning to talk about your feelings this can really help keep your anger down.
Don’t make threats. This is a very weak way of trying to convince someone to understand you.
Don’t bring up negative feelings that the other person may have done in the past. Try to calmly concentrate on the matter in hand.
Abuse is never acceptable. This includes verbal or physical abuse. If the discussion/argument reaches this point then walk away.
Don’t be goaded into an argument. Even negative attention is attention for some people. Some people actually do like to argue because it gives them a sense of power or gratification albeit temporary. Avoid getting sucked into their need for attention.
Listen to your body. When you are angry your body releases chemicals that may cause you to react in ways that can be destructive to you. Learn to understand your feelings and how the process of anger affects you physically and emotionally.
Sometimes if you start feeling negative feelings in your body from arguing you need to step back and take a deep breath and think about what you are saying. Our subconscious will always jump in before our conscious so a great deal of the time when you are having an argument you end up saying something that just makes the argument ten times worse before you have even had a chance to think about it.
If you are finding avoiding arguing hard that is where Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique can help. No one really wants to walk around with these negative feelings and often we don’t have any idea why we are feeling them because they spring from repressed negative feelings in the subconcious. Working with a trained therapist can bring these negative feelings out and take a huge weight off your shoulders. Anger management is a big part of my client base here at positivelycalm where I provide a top class Hypnotherapy service in Essex.
For further information do not hesitate to contact me on 07795573280 or complete this contact form.
Wishing you all a positively calm and argument free New Year!

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