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How do we overcome negative suggestion?

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How not be buried under negativity

How do we overcome negative suggestion? The term heterosuggestion means a suggestion from another person. All over the world the power of suggestion has played a huge part in everybody’s thoughts. Politics, religion and cultural customs all flourish through the power of heterosuggestion.

Suggestion can be used as a tool to discipline and control ourselves. However, it can also be used to take control and command over others who have not been taught to understand the laws of the mind. If it is used constructively then it can be wonderful and positive. BUT if it is used negatively it is one of the most destructive response patterns of the mind. The result of negative hetero suggestion can result in negative patterns of failure, misery, suffering and even sickness.

From the day we are born we are bombarded with negative suggestions without, most of the time, realising it. Our subconscious mind accepts them and so then they become of our being, part of our experience.

 Here are some examples of negative  heterosuggestion. Read each one and think about if you have ever accepted any of these?

  • You can’t.
  • Things are getting worse all the time.
  • You’ll never amount to anything.
  • You’re too old now.
  • You mustn’t.
  • There’s no point in trying too hard.
  • You’ll fail.
  • What’s the use? Nobody cares.
  • You haven’t got a chance.
  • It’s not what you now, but who you know.
  • You’re all wrong.
  • It’s no use.
  • You just can’t win.
  • You can’t trust anybody.
  • You will become ill if you do that.
  • Everybody is out for themselves.

I’m sure we are all familiar with some of these and, of course, there are many more. By accepting these negative suggestions we collaborate in making them a truth in our lives. Especially as a child you are helpless when faced with the suggestions of others, especially if these people are important to you or an authority figure. You do not know enough about the mind to counteract these suggestions.

However, as an adult, you are able to make choices. You can use positive and constructive autosuggestion which is a reconditioning therapy. This will help change impressions made on you in the past. The first step is to make you aware of the heterosuggestions that have made a negative influence on your life. Hypnotherapy is a quick way of uncovering negative subconscious programming, especially using hypno-analysis. After these negative suggestions have been ‘weeded’ out positive and constructive autosuggestion can be used to help release you from negative behaviour patterns.

You only have to read the newspaper and turn on the news everyday to hear stories that sow the seeds of fear, worry, anxiety and impending doom. If you take these in then they can cause you to lose the will for living! BUT once you understand that you don’t have to accept them then you have the power to counteract all these destructive ideas.

Look back and recall how parents, friends, relatives,teachers and even other colleagues contributed negative suggestions. Study these and you will discover that many of them were nothing more than control by instilling fear in you. Whether people realise it or not they can be trying to make you think, feel, and act as they want you to, in ways that are to their advantage even if they are destructive to you.

So, your subconscious mind does not argue with you. It will accept what your conscious mind ‘believes’. If you say “I can’t do it” then your subconscious mind will work to make it true. So accept a better thought “I can do it!”

You have the power to choose so choose health, wealth and happiness. You can choose to be friendly or you can choose to be unfriendly. If you choose to be cooperative, joyous, friendly, lovable, then the world will respond positively! Choose to believe that something good will happen and is already happening. Choose happiness and abundance.

Choose to reject negative statements from others and affirm the good statements. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOOSE HOW YOU REACT!

Be careful what you say. You have to account for every word.Never say ‘I will fail’ or ‘I can’t pay the mortgage’ as your subconscious cannot take a joke. It will bring everything to pass.

Use your mind to bless, heal and inspire all people everywhere with positive thoughts and actions. What you put out comes back tenfold!

Do not let others do your thinking for you. Choose your  own thoughts and make your own decisions. You are the captain of your subconscious mind and the master of your very own fate. You have the capacity to choose.Choose life! Choose love! Choose happiness! Choose abundance! Choose health!

Remember whatever your conscious mind assumes and believes to be true your subconscious mind will accept and bring to pass. For further information contact me here

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Free yourself from Fear!

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It could be argued that people’s greatest enemy is fear. Fear is often the very thing behind failure, sickness, stress and poor human relations. Millions of people are afraid of so many things including fears of the past, the future, old age, dementia, death and illness. Many fears can become a phobia such as fear of flying, spiders and water to name but a few. But fear is just a thought in your own mind which means that all you are actually afraid of are your own thoughts! It’s never too late to free yourself from fear.

If you imagine a small child can be fearful of a monster living under the bed because a playmate has told them that the monster would grab them in the night. But when a parent turns on the light and shows them that there is no monster under the bed then he is freed from that fear. The fear in the  mind of that child was every bit as real as if there was really a monster there. When he was made to realise that the thing that he feared did not exist then he was healed of a false thought in his mind. In the same way, most of your fears have no reality.

The great nineteenth-century philosopher and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson once said “Do the thing you are afraid to do, and the death of fear is certain.”

I remember when I was 19 being asked to be best man at a wedding. In fact it was a very big wedding. I was filled with unutterable fear at the thought of standing before an audience and speaking. I believe that if I had given way to this fear, as terrible as it was, I am sure you would not now be reading this blog. I would never have been able to share with others what I have learned about the workings of the subconscious mind. The way I overcame this fear was to follow Emersons advice. Quaking inside I went before the audience and spoke. It was tough at first but as the speech went on I gained a little confidence and by the end I was almost enjoying it. Admittedly it was quite a while until I spoke in front of an audience again but I used this experience as a benchmark and in my line of work now I have to engage in public speaking all the time and I actually enjoy it. I did the thing I was afraid to do and the death of fear was certain.

When you affirm positively that you are going to master your fears, and you come to a definite decision in your conscious mind, you release the power of the subconscious, which in return flows in response to the nature of your thought.

Try this technique for overcoming fear. Suppose you were afraid of swimming. You can retrain your mind with this simple technique. Try and sit still for at least two to three times a day for five or ten minutes. Now imagine that you are swimming. Mentally project yourself into the water. You feel the coolness of the water and the movement of your arms and legs. It is all a very real and vivid and joyful activity in your mind. What you are experiencing in your imagination will then be developed in your subconscious mind. When you next swim it is the joyful action that will surface as this is the law of the subconscious.

The same technique can be applied to other fears. A hypnotherapist can induce an even deeper state to instill positive suggestion and sometimes may work with regression to find a root cause for the particular fear and release the negative emotion that has been buried within the subconscious mind. Emotional Freedom Technique is also another good way of clearing those negative feelings.

Remember to give your focus to what you want to happen not what you are afraid might happen instead. For example If you are fearing failure then focus on success!

For further help and support in overcoming your fears please do not hesitate in contacting me.

 

 

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Motivation

Hello again everyone and welcome to my third blog. This week I have decided to talk about motivation.  Funnily enough I had to motivate myself to write this blog! At the end of the last blog you will remember me putting that I would write about motivation in the next blog. Well I am not sure where that came from. It just came into my mind, probably because, yes, it is an important part of a hypnotherapists work. When I really thought about it though I wondered how I could possibly condense that down into about a thousand words for a blog. After all there is so much to be said about motivation. Then I got a cold. It is very rare for me to not feel well. I became de-motivated! Sometimes though our bodies have ways of telling us that we have to slow down and I believe this is what happened. So, between clients, I recharged and re-motivated myself.

What is motivation?  Motivation is defined as the process that initiates, guides, and maintains goal-oriented behaviours. So, motivation can be self-orientated and it can also be used to motivate others. The Cambridge English dictionary describes the nouns of motivation as both enthusiasm and reason. For example ‘there seems to be a lack of motivation among the employees’, ‘that student lacks motivation’ (enthusiasm) or what was the motivation for the attack and’ the motivation behind the decision is the desire to improve the service to our customers’ (reason).

There are two ways motivation works in hypnotherapy. First I will talk about the definition of reason. This would be what I, as a hypnotherapist, would be looking for during  hypno-analysis.  Hypno-analysis is the process of hypnotising a client and guiding them back to their former years to find out any emotional baggage that their subconscious may be holding onto. By doing this we can find out what  colours the individuals thoughts and behaviours and makes that person act in a certain way. For example, if a client was seeing me for weight loss and we regressed to a time in childhood where that particular person had been told off for not eating all their meal then their protective subconscious may have held onto negative emotion related to this that then caused that individual to always finish a meal even if they felt full and to overeat. It would be a learnt thought process that eating everything was good. By releasing this as an adult the adult mind realises that actually this is not quite true and that person can move forward more healthily. Suggestion would also be used here to reinforce healthy eating and only eat as much as is needed.

So many things happen in our former years that can affect our motivation. If there is a lot of trauma this can lead to depression which has a huge effect on our motivation. Anyone that has suffered from depression realises that it can be hard to even motivate yourself out of bed in the morning. If somebody was constantly told that they were useless, that they would never amount to anything then they may become de-motivated. So there are reasons behind each of ours very ways of being. What motivates or de- motivates one person will not necessarily be the same as another. Once we clear what has de-motivated an individual we can move onto motivating them in the right direction which leads me onto the second definition of ‘enthusiasm’.  So where a hypnotherapist has used hypno-analysis to find the reason for demotivation he/she can then use suggestion therapy to motivate and enthuse the client. Some clients will get positive results just from some suggestion work. For example I have had marathon runners beat their best time by having some suggestion work to help with motivation. If a person is generally de-motivated in life though we would have to start looking at the core reason for this. A person may come to me for a quit-smoking session. This is a one off two hour session using psychotherapy in the first hour and then an hour of hypnosis using suggestion therapy to quit the habit. If anyone still smokes after this then I offer a free top up session. It is very rare that anyone needs to return for this. However if they do and then after that the habit is still there then it indicates a much deeper rooted reason for self-destruction that would have to be investigated with analysis should the client wish to go down that route.

Some of us are better at self-motivation than others and some of us are better at motivating others. That doesn’t always necessarily mean that they are as good at motivating themselves. All of this comes down to life experience.

So, have a think. What motivates you? Also, what de-motivates you? If we can face up to some of our demons that de-motivate then it makes it much easier to motivate ourselves. Willpower has a great effect on our motivation but what makes some people have stronger willpower than others? Again it’s very much down to life’s experiences. “All you need is will power” is part of the new years resolution language. Many hypnotherapists find that they get their busiest periods towards the end of January when people are breaking their new years resolutions by not being able to break a bad habit by willpower alone. Motivation hypnotherapy is a great strengthener to a clients will power.

Of course there are many other factors that can de-motivate us. Illness, for example. As I mentioned earlier I became de-motivated when I got a cold. Don’t beat yourself up if at times you are not as motivated as others. There is really only a problem if you are never motivated to do anything.

It’s not only hypnotherapy that can help with motivation but also EFT. Finding your blocks to success and then tapping away those blocks! Look at my EFT page for more information.

Alcohol or narcotics abuse will definitely demotivate you. Don’t fall into the trap that drugs will give you a buzz and energy. They can end up taking control of your life and motivation is about being in control.

Sometimes just having a goal is enough to motivate us. I know, personally, if I have a few extra pounds on and I have a holiday booked those few extra pounds are going to be gone by the time I get on that beach!!!

So think about what could motivate you towards your goal and if there is no goal there find one!

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